Butterflies in the Sky

This is the d’var Torah I delivered at Congregation Neveh Shalom on Saturday, August 29, 2026.


There’s something extraordinary about giving a child a book. You hand them a stack of paper covered in words and pictures, and somehow you also hand them a world. A book can become a memory, a question, an identity, even a piece of who that child eventually becomes. And the remarkable thing is, the person who gives the book may never know the impact it had. 

When Dolly Parton departed our world this week, much was and will continue to be said about her music, her personality, and her enormous cultural legacy. But there’s another piece of her legacy that has had an unexpected and enormous impact on Jewish life. In 1995, inspired by her father, who could not read or write, Parton created the Imagination Library in her home county in Tennessee. The idea was wonderfully simple: every month, send a free book directly to young children, building not only literacy, but a culture of reading in their homes. 

When Imagination Library spread to other parts of the country, it was a Jewish philanthropist by the name of Harold Grinspoon who helped bring it to Western Massachusetts. Years later, Harold was at Pesach seder with his family and saw the joy on his grandchildren’s faces when they were handed gifts for finding the afikomen: Jewish picture books. Harold then had a very Jewish thought: What if we did what Imagination Library does, but with Jewish picture books? What if Jewish stories simply showed up in Jewish homes? In 2005, that inspiration became PJ Library. What began with a few hundred families in Western Massachusetts has grown into a worldwide Jewish literacy program, sending books filled with Jewish stories, values, holidays, traditions, and questions into hundreds of thousands of homes in 40 countries and 7 languages. 

In other words, Dolly Parton planted a seed. Harold Grinspoon recognized what might grow from it. And generations of Jewish children have been shaped by the fruit. 

Which makes it particularly fitting that we read Parshat Ki Tavo this week. 

As the Israelites prepare to enter the Promised Land, Moses gives them instructions for a future he himself will never experience. When they settle the land and bring their first fruits, they are commanded not simply to offer the fruit, but to tell the story: “Arami oved avi.” “My ancestor was a wandering Aramean.” They recount where they came from, what their ancestors endured, and how they arrived at this moment. 

Notice what Torah asks them to bring: fruit and story. Judaism understands that neither is enough by itself. What sustains a people is not simply what we grow, build, or accumulate. We survive because we tell the next generation where they came from and invite them to see themselves inside the story. 

There is a wonderful Talmudic story about Honi HaMe’agel, who sees an old man planting a carob tree that will not bear fruit for seventy years. Honi asks why he would plant something whose fruit he may never eat. The man responds that just as his ancestors planted for him, he plants for those who will come after him. In fact, there’s even a beautifully interpreted picture book version of this story in PJ Library’s lineup, written by Laurel Snyder called The Forever Garden. 

This is Ki Tavo. And perhaps that is the unexpected connection between Imagination Library and PJ Library too. We rarely know which seeds will take root. A book mailed to a child in East Tennessee inspires a Jewish philanthropist in Massachusetts. A Jewish book arrives in a home, sparks a question at bedtime, becomes a family ritual, and perhaps decades later that child reads a Jewish story to a child of their own. 

Our charge is to keep planting. Put the book in the child’s hands. Tell the family story. Sing the melody. Teach the blessing. Answer the question. Because Judaism has never survived merely by remembering the generations before us. Judaism survives when we give the next generation enough stories, enough roots, and enough imagination to write the next chapter themselves. 

A Mountain of Choices

From the moment we wake up until the moment we go to bed, our days are filled with decisions. We are constantly making choices, from what to eat, what to wear, what words to say. Some decisions are small, like whether to take the freeway or the back roads. Others are much bigger, shaping our character or even the legacy we leave. Judaism teaches that even in the ordinary, our choices are infused with holiness. And one of the most powerful ways we frame this is through the blessings we say before learning Torah or performing mitzvot.

Parshat Ki Tavo includes one of the most memorable covenantal moments in the Torah. As the Israelites prepare to enter the Land of Israel, Moses instructs them to divide between two mountains: Mount Gerizim, symbolizing blessings, and Mount Ebal, symbolizing curses. There, they publicly affirm their commitment to God’s commandments, declaring aloud the blessings that flow from faithfulness and the consequences of neglect. It’s a dramatic reminder that Torah is not abstract; it lives in our choices, and those choices have impact.

This moment at Gerizim and Ebal resonates with blessings we say every day. Before we engage with sacred text, we recite the Birkat HaTorah: “Blessed are you … who has chosen us and given us the Torah.” Before performing a commandment, we say the Birkat HaMitzvot: “…who has sanctified us with commandments and commanded us to…” These words echo the covenantal choice in Ki Tavo. Each blessing is a declaration that Torah and mitzvot are not just rituals we check off, but pathways to blessing—ways we bring holiness into our lives.

Standing between those two mountains, the Israelites learn that blessing doesn’t descend on us passively. It’s the result of choosing to live with intention, guided by Torah. Every time we recite these blessings, we symbolically return to that valley between Gerizim and Ebal, and we choose again.

This week, as we read Ki Tavo, may we hear the call from those ancient mountains in our own lives. When we bless Torah study and mitzvot, let us remember we are not simply reciting words, but affirming our covenantal choice to walk in blessing in our daily actions, big and small. 

Expecting the Worst – Parshat Ki Tavo 5784

I am a catastrophizer. That means I foresee catastrophe, real or imagined. I cannot watch my children run down a hill without picturing them falling and getting hurt. When there are reckless drivers on the road, I envision a car accident waiting to happen. Even in situations that aren’t life-threatening, I can let the worst-case scenario get the best of me, whether it’s a program that might flop or vacation plans that might fall through. It’s easy to want to give up and ask why do it if it’s just going to end up terribly anyway?

Rationally, I know my kids won’t injure themselves every time they play, and I know that sometimes things turn out just fine even if they don’t go as expected. But our brains seem to be very good at getting us worked up anyway, and believe it or not, the Torah knew this would happen and warns against it.

Our Torah portion this week, Parshat Ki Tavo, brings us closer to the final lessons God wants the Israelite nation to learn before they enter into the promised land. Our text reminds us again of the blessings and curses that come to us as we choose to follow or ignore the laws of the Torah. Specifically, we learn of the requirement to make an offering of “first fruits” for the priests in the Beit HaMikdash, and the different ways in which we are supposed to thank God and give praise (before prayer was a daily activity). Finally, the text reminds us of how we’re supposed to take time to rebuke one another when we’ve made a misstep and the ways in which we can do so with compassion and kindness.

In the midst of the section of warnings against stepping out of line with God’s commands, we read this verse in chapter 28, verse 67: “In the morning you shall say, ‘If only it were evening!’ and in the evening you shall say, ‘If only it were morning!’ – because of what your heart shall dread and your eyes shall see.” In other words, as bad as the reality will be, you will fear that the future will be worse. Fear of misfortune is often worse than any actual misfortune that might occur, as our imaginations conjure up all sorts of dreadful experiences we may feel we deserve.

I’m guessing I’m not alone. It’s easy to fall into catastrophizing because the human imagination and our anxious brains are phenomenally creative. However, nothing beats experience, and the Torah this week reminds us to let experience rather than overthinking set our expectations. One by one, perhaps we can work to silence our “what ifs.”

A Work In Progress – Parshat Ki Tavo 5783

Life as a homeowner means being in a constant state of looking around to see what our next project might be. When we bought our house, in fact, we bought it knowing that we would one day lift the roof over the attic and turn that space into a fourth bedroom. Before we had even moved in, before we even purchased the house, we already had plans to change it. It’s not that the house wasn’t inhabitable, it fully was; it was that this house would become the place where our family would grow, change, learn, and make mistakes. It was perfectly imperfect, which made it right for us.

There are other ways to experience this feeling of perpetual creative evolution. Perhaps it is a piece of artwork that you keep coming back to, changing one piece or adding something new. Perhaps it is your garden that appears just right, and then you find that one spot you just have to alter. In our Torah portion this week, the Israelites learn about entering the Land of Israel, and they too learn about being settled in the perfectly imperfect. 

Our Torah portion this week, Parshat Ki Tavo, brings us closer to the final lessons God wants the Israelite nation to learn before they enter into the promised land. Our text reminds us again of the blessings and curses that come to us as we choose to follow or ignore the laws of the Torah. Specifically, we learn of the requirement to make an offering of “first fruits” for the priests in the Beit HaMikdash, and the different ways in which we are supposed to thank God and give praise (before prayer was a daily activity). Finally, the text reminds us of how we’re supposed to take time to rebuke one another when we’ve made a misstep and the ways in which we can do so with compassion and kindness.

As the Israelites prepare to enter the land, God instructs them to “build an altar of unhewn stones.” That is, they aren’t supposed to mess with the stones or try to make them perfect. The altar for God in the land that God had promised them needs to be made up of stones that are imperfect and broken, that fit together the best they can, and aren’t too carefully constructed.

This is because, like moving into a new home and finding all the ways you can change the space, the Israelites needed to explore it, live in it, feel it in all its imperfections. As much as we might like to keep adjusting and fixing, The Torah reminds us not to jump into crafting and changing things the second we see them, but instead take time to notice the ways in which a little crack here or a weird corner there can actually be holy too. 

All Consuming – Parshat Ki Tavo 5781

Did you nibble on your children when they were young? I find that I can’t help it, and I mean this in the most motherly, unaggressive way you can imagine. Especially when my kids were babies, they were totally irresistible with their little rolls of love and sweet faces. I would devour them with my kisses. A few years ago, researchers developed a term for this feeling, which they call “cute aggression.” In other words, it’s the point at which something is so cute you just want to smoosh it or eat it up. Of course that feeling goes away as they mature and get a bit smellier and lose those baby rolls, but I still live for their snuggles (when they’re willing to snuggle). 

What’s been difficult these last 18 months is realizing how much we depend on human contact as a coping mechanism. We continue to give so much of ourselves without realizing we’re depleting our human contact reserves without the ability to refill them as often as we could before. This week, the Torah has an interesting and seemingly macabre teaching about how we give of ourselves physically and emotionally.

Our Torah portion this week, Parshat Ki Tavo, brings us closer to the final lessons God wants the Israelite nation to learn before they enter into the promised land. Our text reminds us again of the blessings and curses that come to us as we choose to follow or ignore the laws of the Torah. Specifically, we learn of the requirement to make an offering of “first fruits” for the priests in the Beit HaMikdash, and the different ways in which we are supposed to thank God and give praise (before prayer was a daily activity). Finally, the text reminds us of how we’re supposed to take time to rebuke one another when we’ve taken a misstep and the ways in which we can do so with compassion and kindness.

In the giving of these rules and laws we receive a strange lesson: “You shall eat your own issue, the flesh of your sons and daughters that God has assigned to you, because of the desperate straits to which your enemy shall reduce you.” At first glance, chapter 28, verse 53 is rather odd if not downright troublesome. Is God predicting that we’re going to need to eat our own children because of our enemies? That certainly makes me question if God has our best interests at heart. What could this mean if we move past a gruesome literal interpretation?

Perhaps the verse is a metaphor for the way in which we might “devour” or consume each other’s needs in times of trouble and moments of distress. This verse also reminds us that in old age, or in periods of struggle, we often turn to each other and give of ourselves in ways that might be all consuming. But that reminder comes with the warning that we risk depleting our personal resources when we let ourselves be consumed.  

Part of our daily humanity is finding the balance between giving and receiving support. When we don’t support others, we become disconnected from the community and turn into enemies, but when we don’t draw boundaries for ourselves, we can become our own enemies. May we take this lesson with us into the new year.